7 tips to deal with a narcissist in a relationship

Narcissism is a trending term these days. Several studies show that narcissism exists on a spectrum. According to a study published on psychiatry.org, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is diagnosed in clinical settings using criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). People suffering with strong narcissistic traits often show entitlement, low to no empathy and grandiosity. In close relationships, these patterns produce conflict, manipulation (including gaslighting), and emotional harm. To protect your well-being, it is important to recognise these patterns in the first place. Below are seven practical tips grounded in clinical guidance to deal with a narcissist in a relationship. Know the pattern and understand the signsSome of the most common signs of narcissistic traits include the need of excessive admiration, reacting poorly to criticism, showing no sympathy and exploiting others for personal gain. Research reviews published on pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov and clinical summaries show that these traits predict interpersonal problems: reduced empathy, more conflict, and higher risk of manipulative tactics (including gaslighting). These signs reflect the partner’s pathology and your self-worth. Set clear, non-negotiable boundaries and expect resistance

According to psychcentral.com boundaries are very important when you know that the person has narcissistic traits. However, studies and clinician reports warn that boundary-setting can be triggering for a narcissistic. Be ready to enforce limits and be calm when doing so. Document each and every interactions and promisesDon’t fall into the ‘future-faking’ trap set up by a narcissistic. Research and expert commentary note that narcissistic partners initially use charm and make big and fake promises (often termed as “future-faking”) to control the other partner. It’s essential to record and keep a track of all important conversations, keep texts, and noting unmet promises. It helps you make informed decisions and share accurate information with therapists or family if needed. This is a practical, low-conflict safeguard. Protect your sense of reality and understand the concept gaslighting

Gaslighting is one of the most emotionally confusing concept in a relationship. It actually means persistent denial, minimisation, or re-framing of events to make you doubt your sense of reality. It is important to protect your sense of reality. It is a documented tactic in abusive relationships and has been linked with certain personality profiles. Seek perspective from close ones, friends, family, or a therapist. Recent reviews show gaslighting is real and damaging. Self-care is the key and social supportPeople close to those with high narcissistic traits often report high stress and anxiety. It also shows lowered relationship satisfaction. Clinical resources (Mayo Clinic and Cleveland Clinic) recommend maintaining self care and a strong support network is important. Make sure your sleep is regular, exercise daily, and do what you love and what makes you happy. Self-care is one of the best ways to protect your overall health. Seek professional help but be careful

Therapy is considered helpful in such situations. But therapy with a narcissistic person is extremely complex. Reviews of NPD treatment note modest, variable outcomes and emphasize therapists skilled in personality-disorder work. If you seek couples therapy, choose a therapist that understands narcissism. Also individual therapy is important as it focuses on your personal recovery, and decision-making. Plan exit strategies if the relationship becomes abusive

Research emphasises that some narcissistic relationships escalate into emotional abuse. Repeated manipulation, threats, or any form of violence seek immediate exit plans. Create an exit plan with trusted friends and family. Studies linking narcissistic traits to aggression and abusive tactics reinforce that leaving may be the safest. It’s difficult to survive in a narcissistic relationship. Understand that such traits are rooted in personality and changes can’t be spotted overnight. Clinical intervention is necessary sometimes. And progress depends from person to person. So if you’re dealing with someone with high-level NPD, seek help from a qualified mental-health professional.